If you don't know her size, buy a necklace or earrings. Pendant necklaces, huggie earrings and stud earrings fit everyone, so there's no measuring, no guessing and no awkward return. Rings are the only piece that really needs a size — and even then, there are two easy ways to get it right without spoiling the surprise.
Here's how to choose a piece she'll open, put on straight away, and keep wearing.
Which jewellery gifts don't need a size?
Three do: pendant necklaces, stud earrings and huggie earrings. All three are one-size pieces, which means the only decision left is colour — and that's the fun part, not the risky part.
Rings and bangles are the sized pieces. They're beautiful gifts, but they carry a bit more homework. If you're buying last-minute or you've never seen her hands up close, skip the ring this time.
| Piece | Needs a size? | Gift risk | Best for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Pendant necklace | No (chain length is adjustable or standard) | Very low | A gift with presence that suits everyone |
| Stud earrings | No | Very low | Everyday wear, sensitive ears, quiet colour |
| Huggie earrings | No | Very low | Someone who wears earrings daily and never takes them out |
| Ring | Yes | Medium | When you know her size (or can find it out) |
| Gift card | No | None | When she's particular, and you'd rather she chose |
How do you find out her ring size without asking?
Two methods work, and neither gives you away. First: borrow a ring she already wears on the same finger, trace the inside circle on paper, and measure the diameter in millimetres. Second: check the inside of an existing ring for a stamped number — many rings carry their size.
If you can do neither, our ring size guide walks through measuring at home with a strip of paper in about two minutes. And honestly? Asking is fine. "What's your ring size" is a thrilling question to receive.
What colour should you choose?
Pick the colour she already wears, not the one you'd choose for her. Look at her wardrobe and her handbag. If she lives in navy, cream and denim, blush or vanilla will slot straight in. If she wears a lot of black and white, seafoam or lavender gives her the pop she's been missing. Neapolitan is for the woman who owns her colour and isn't shy about it.
One rule: if she wears gold, she'll wear this. Everything we make is 18k gold vermeil over sterling silver, so the warm gold tone works with almost every existing piece in her jewellery box.
Does the gift need to match what she already owns?
No — it needs to go with what she owns, which is a lower bar. A pendant necklace layers happily with a chain she already has. Studs sit above huggies. A band stacks with whatever's already on her hand.
That's why colourful jewellery is easier to gift than people expect. It doesn't compete with her existing pieces. It lifts them.
How much should you spend on a jewellery gift?
Enough that the materials are real. That's the line that matters. Jewellery that goes green, snaps, or lives in a drawer after three wears isn't a gift — it's a small disappointment with a bow on it.
Our pieces are handcrafted in Jaipur in 18k gold vermeil over sterling silver, in limited runs of 20. Real gold, real sterling, real stones — rose quartz for calm and love, citrine for warmth and positivity. That's the standard worth spending to.
What if she's genuinely hard to buy for?
Then buy the safest beautiful thing: a pendant necklace in a colour she wears, or a gift card so she can choose her own. There's no shame in either. The point is that she ends up with something she actually puts on — not something she thanks you for and quietly rehomes.
And a note on the woman in her second chapter: she does not need another candle. She needs permission to wear the good stuff on a Tuesday.
Frequently asked questions
What is the safest jewellery gift if I don't know her size?
A pendant necklace. It fits everyone, it suits every neckline, and it layers with whatever she already owns.
Can I exchange a ring if I get the size wrong?
Check the returns policy before you buy. Because our pieces are made in small batches of 20, a specific colour and size may not always be available for exchange — which is another reason a necklace or earrings is the lower-risk choice.
Are stud earrings or huggie earrings the better gift?
Studs if she's a set-and-forget wearer or has sensitive ears. Huggies if she wears earrings every day and likes a bit more presence. Both are one size.
Is gold vermeil a good gift material?
Yes. 18k gold vermeil is a thick layer of real gold over sterling silver, so it wears far better than gold plating and is kind to sensitive skin. See our jewellery care guide to help it stay glossy.
How do I choose a colour she'll actually wear?
Match her wardrobe, not your taste. Blush and vanilla for neutral dressers, seafoam and lavender for anyone in a lot of black and white, neapolitan for the bold ones.
Start with our bestsellers — they're the pieces our customers buy for other people most often — or browse the full range of pendant necklaces and earrings. Wear the joy.